If you don’t have ADHD, it might be hard to know how best to communicate with your friends/family that do have ADHD. Even with good intentions, you may say something that unintentionally triggers some deep shame and pain. This guide is a quick lesson on some of the things you should avoid saying to people with ADHD.
Hi Jesse! I just posted kind of a strange piece, a real-time record of how my attention issues manifest while trying to read with ADHD. Not sure it’s the perfect format for Substack, but I’d love to hear your thoughts.
This hits because it names the real damage — not the symptoms, but the shame that builds when intentions are constantly misunderstood.
ADHD isn’t a lack of effort or intelligence, it’s a mismatch between how a brain works and how the world expects it to work.
Assuming good intentions shouldn’t be radical, but for people with ADHD it often is.
Articles like this matter because they shift the focus from “fixing” us to actually understanding us. So thank u for that!!
Hi Jesse! I just posted kind of a strange piece, a real-time record of how my attention issues manifest while trying to read with ADHD. Not sure it’s the perfect format for Substack, but I’d love to hear your thoughts.